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The teaching that men are to be the “spiritual leaders” of their homes is found nowhere in Scripture, and yet I—along with far too many young evangelical women—spent hours upon hours fretting over this in college, worrying I’d never find a guy who was more knowledgeable about the Bible than I, who was always more emotionally connected to God than I, who was better at leading in the church than I, and who consistently exhibited more faithfulness and wisdom than I. (In fact, under this paradigm, I came to see many of my gifts as liabilities, impediments to settling down with a good “spiritual leader”!)

Well guess what. I never found such a person. I never found a spiritual “leader.” Instead, I found a spiritual companion to travel with me on the journey of faith, for better or worse, in good times and bad, in times of spiritual wealth and in times of spiritual poverty. Dan isn’t expected to always be the strong one while I am always the weak one. Instead, we cheer each other on, help each other up, and challenge each other to do better. Sometimes we walk side by side, moving along at a quick pace. Sometimes we help each other over boulders and fallen trees. Sometimes I’m leading the way; sometimes Dan is. Sometimes I carry him and sometimes he carries me. The journey of faith is far too treacherous and exciting and beautiful to spend it looking at the back of another person’s head. Jesus leads us down the path, and we tackle it together, one step at a time.

—Rachel Held Evans (via blakebaggott)

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You don’t marry a gender; you marry a person. And yet the majority of Christian marriage books dole out advice based on gender stereotypes: “men need adventure,” “women need security,” “men like quiet time,” “women process verbally,” “men crave respect and control,” “women crave love and emotional intimacy,” “men are like microwaves,” “women are like ovens.” But even before we got married, Dan and I realized that just as often as we fit these generalities, we don’t. Dan knows I’d prefer tickets to a football game over a nice piece of jewelry and that too much security and not enough adventure leaves me feeling bored. I know that Dan is better at nurturing friendships than I am and thrives creatively when he has the chance to collaborate with other people.

So for all of this talk of men being “wired” one way and women being “wired” another, we have found, as Micah Murray puts it, that “wires are for robots.” We are human beings, and we relate to one another better when we stop expecting the other person to behave in a prescribed, programmed way but instead talk openly with one another about our actual desires, preferences, hopes, and expectations.

—Rachel Held Evans, 10 Marriage Reality Checks (via thehollowinyourchest)

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alliearlene:

perfect morning in Aptos with my BFF Jesus.

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Are you thirsty for living water
Would you let your spirit fall
Can you hear it, the sound of hope
Just as the lion’s roar

This is the voice of God
This is the voice of God
This is the voice of God
This is the voice of God

I look to the skies
My eyes are set on you
They’re set on you
I look to you
Pour your spirit out
I live my life for you
In all I do, it’s all for you

There is power in the name of our king
Martyr for the sins of all
Let the nations cry, let the nations sing
Just as the lion’s roar

This is the voice of God
This is the voice of God
This is the voice of God
This is the voice of God

I look to the skies
My eyes are set on you
They’re set on you
I look to you
Pour your spirit out
I live my life for you
In all I do, it’s all for you

This path a narrow road
But I stand on the promise of the Father
This call to a broken world
But we stand on the promise of the Father

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girlwhowasonfire:

As of today, I’ve been accepted to Biola University’s Graduate School of Theology, and can officially consider myself a seminary student! 

As a lot of you know, these past few months have been super stressful while waiting for my undergrad degree to be conferred (a thing that happened only last week) so that I could be accepted to grad school. This is a huge answer to prayer and I’m honestly beyond excited to go back to school again!

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ready-aim-shoot: your posts on homosexuality are Dissappinting.. I Disagree with them. The bible clearly says that Homosexuality is a sin and as a believer we should not be supporting it. Would you support a murderer? Or someone who stole? No! So Why support homosexuality? for the sake of what society thinks is acceptable? The Bible applies to today just as much as it did 2,000 years ago. Same God. same words of God.. This doesn't mean we are to hate homosexuals. We show then the love of Christ. But support?? No

Hey, I did say personal views. Homosexuality doesn’t hurt people like murdering and stealing does.

I don’t understand why we as Christians have to get so angry about homosexuality. People living together before marriage is a sin, but no one gets upset about that. If marriage is a Christian institution, then why aren’t we getting angry at atheists who get married? It’s a double standard.

As a Christian, I take love your neighbor seriously. This means desiring equality for others, and that encompasses supporting my friends to be able to get married and accepting and loving them regardless of who they love.

- Eli

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Anonymous: I've always considered myself to be an ally for the LGBT community, but recently while reading Matthew 19 it comes across as heteronormative to me so I'm unsure :/

Well, something that was written 2000 years ago in Palestine is probably going to look pretty heteronormative because of cultural and historical reasons! Doesn’t mean you can’t support equality today :)

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Anonymous: Do you think being gay/bisexual is a sin?

Personally, nope. Also, there are much bigger issues for Christians to be worrying about than homosexuality.

- Eli

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